"If you can control your behavior when everything around you is out of control, you can model for your children a valuable lesson in patience and understanding...and snatch an opportunity to shape character."
– Jane Clayson Johnson, I Am a Mother

Child Behavior

As a parent, we often simply ask, how do I know what is normal behavior? How do I deal with tantrums when I go to the store? What if my child isn’t developing as they should? How do I find help?

Trying to figure out the behaviors of your children can be hard, and we hope to give you helpful tips and valuable resources to find your way through the often changing maze of parenting. From toddler tantrums to first days of pre-school, to teenage challenges, to finding time to take care of ourselves as parents, we hope to make your journey a bit easier.

For more resources about child behavior and your child’s mental health go to the Your Child’s Mental Health section.

What is Parenting?

Parenting is the raising of a child, a process from infancy to adulthood that shapes the emotional, physical, and intellectual health of a child. It is a lifelong role. As a parent, you must decide if you will raise your children by the same methods that you yourself were raised or if you will define your role as a parent in your own way.

If you would like to learn more about parenting in a classroom setting, there may be parenting courses taught near you in Ventura County.  Parenting classes will also give you the opportunity to talk with other parents in a group setting where you may feel supported by other parents going through the same things as you.  

Styles of parenting can vary widely, but there is agreement among psychologists about the success rates of some styles as compared with others.

Smart parenting is raising your child with love, care and guidance to be a happy and healthy individual.  Parents have the opportunity to teach children how to be successful in many ways.  Being a positive parent means creating a family environment that supports clear communication, clear expectations and good relationships with your children.

Parenting requires a healthy parent. When a parent takes care of their own health, they become a healthy role model for their children. Often a child will imitate what a parent does, so it is important for parents to eat well, exercise regularly, get regular medical and dental care, drive safely and get enough sleep.

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Easy Everyday Tips

We know that eating well and exercise keeps our body healthy. Did you know that it’s also important to take care of your mind’s health? These easy things make a difference for you and your family:

  • Play ball or a game with your children
  • Cook while paying attention and enjoying each step
  • Give your child a hug
  • Take a walk alone or with a family member or friend
  • Eat dinner together
  • Do something that makes you proud or happy
  • Be kind to someone else

Ventura County Local Resources: Saying 'Yes' to Positive Parenting

Have you ever felt stressed about parenting your children? What do you do if you don’t know how to change the behavior of your child? Sometimes parents need just a little advice. Sometimes parents need individual or group support. From valuable one-time Tip Sheets, to brief ‘check-ins’, to individual or group support, Triple P Parenting is available to you and your family.

Triple P Parenting program is designed to:

  • Help parents better manage their children’s behavior
  • Decrease parents’ stress
  • Provide practical approaches to help parents
  • Offer minimal intervention strategies to meet the family needs

Triple P is offered throughout Ventura County by a wide range of community providers including;

  • Schools
  • Faith-based groups
  • Public and private agencies
  • After-school programs
  • Public health nursing

It is likely that someone that works with your child has been trained in Triple P — just ask!

If you are interested in receiving parenting support and need contact information please contact

There is no fee for services, which are funded by the Mental Health Services Act and First 5 Ventura. If your organization is interested in receiving training as a Triple P Provider, please contact



"It takes courage to raise children."
- John Steinbeck, East of Eden